how would you rate your mental health?

My life was darkness and chaos until 2022 and in 2023 it just finally got better.

Since 2019, I have moved five times and this was one of the factors that affected my well-being.

I had to repeatedly use the help of a psychologist and take antidepressants.

But now I live with a wonderful partner, with whom we have been in a relationship for 8 years, and I have almost everything for life. And I finally began to know myself better and began to better understand my body, mind and identity.

But only the past constantly reminds me of itself. The past has a stranglehold on me and won't let me go.

I would like to forget about many things, just to stop feeling shame and pain.

And I feel tired all the time. No matter how hard I try, I can't rest.

Well, this month has also knocked me out of balance...

In any case, I can say for sure that now it at least looks like stability, unlike everything I had before

not the best but not the worst, and still somehow a lot better than before.

finally found stable employment and that shit cleared my head in a trillion ways i couldn't see before.

5 hours ago, fruity lerlups said:

therapy is a scam

no, it isn't at all.
thanks to it I'm still here after a strong and deep depression that almost ends my life.

And why the hell are u asking this in DoomWorld? lmao

13 minutes ago, MistycSpider said:

And why the hell are u asking this in DoomWorld? lmao

Check which sub forum you are in.

1 minute ago, Firebert said:

Check which sub forum you are in.

I know, I'm just asking, why doomworld? bro wants to make a mental health wad? 

3 minutes ago, MistycSpider said:

I know, I'm just asking, why doomworld? bro wants to make a mental health wad? 

Read again. "Everything Else" means everything not related to Doom. No reason to be so dismissive

1 minute ago, Firebert said:

Read again. "Everything Else" means everything not related to Doom. No reason to be so dismissive

I'm not being dismissive, at least not as OP spreading missinformation about mental health theraphy, the wad comment was just a sarcastic joke. I'm genuily asking it, it's rare to see that kind of post here, even in this sub

It could be better since 2020, and especially since 2022.

Nowadays, I feel like I'm just going with the flow.

These years feel so hollow, brutal and sinister.

Sometimes, you know, I think that 2010s were a time of unfulfilled hopes and dreams, it felt much more positive than the 2020s that just started and already makes me sick every time I read the news.

There are some positive things in my life that happened in recent years, but if I could go back in time with all I have - I probably would.
 

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14 minutes ago, MistycSpider said:

I'm not being dismissive, at least not as OP spreading missinformation about mental health theraphy, the wad comment was just a sarcastic joke. I'm genuily asking it, it's rare to see that kind of post here, even in this sub

I understand, yet I think it's fair to say that your original reply could be interpreted as you believing the topic of mental health is too off-topic for Doomworld. Perhaps instead of using phrasing like "why the hell" and "lmao" you could say something like this: "I'm curious as to why you're asking about this on Doomworld".

6 hours ago, fruity lerlups said:

therapy is a scam

I can certainly understand why you would have this perspective. I've been a client for roughly 8-9 therapists in my humble lifetime and only one of them really knew how to push in a productive direction. Speaking from personal experience, therapy might not necessarily be the thing that is going to pull you out of a terrible depression. Around year ago I came home from an in-patient treatment center where you're appointed a therapist and live in a very structured environment with 18-something other people. It helped me not necessarily because of my therapist but because I was able to interact with peers who I could relate to, which helped boost my confidence. Since then I've been seeing the same therapist I was seeing before in-patient and I've only ever felt like I was just wasting my time while I failed to meet my own goals every day.

I think if you're a mental health train-wreck like me and have a lot of problems, there will probably be seldom few therapists who would know how to help you. While there are things that help me instead of therapy, I imagine this is probably a thing that is dependent on the person. In my case, finding people that will remind me I'm loved and appreciated helps me a lot.

Not great! Generally feel pretty miserable. But, I've been to therapy today, started to explore some of my issues - particularly in my struggles to advocate for myself. It's given me a lot to think about and hopefully implement.

Meh, could be better.  If I wasn't single.  I learned to just accept the things that are going on my life and just move on.  Listening to John Romero interviews help, old days of Id software stories.

It's been bad after my girlfriend died to covid some 2 years ago. The only time in my life I've been truly happy was with her. Now I'm either depressed and get nothing done or sink into making my game the whole day and trying not to think of anything else until I go sleep and then feel sad.

Sometimes I meet some friends, feel like they wouldn't really care if I was there or not, later go back home. Then I might feel more depressed than if I had been home alone all day.

During the worst time I ate some 200g milk chocolate every day. That lasted some 6 months, then I managed to decrease it a bit. Now 200g chocolate could last a few days and I don't buy more right away. Also smoked for some year when I was drunk, and I hadn't smoked for over 10 years. I drink alcohol more often than before.

i'd much rather be in a better place. To be honest, playing Doom and other 90s fps games helps me with my mental health. I don't know why? It just makes me feel good inside and helps me get away from life for a while.

Mine's is kinda up and down, struggling with doing doom mapping at the moment, dealing with irl stuff and just going along with day to day.

Subpar confidence, but also a go-to attitude to get by. Most days my shortcomings aren't triggered, however the few instances they are, they leave a lasting bad mood.

Loving life!

9 hours ago, fruity lerlups said:

therapy is a scam

I agree with this, but not in the sense that American healthcare is a scam (though it is) and more that therapy itself isn't actually designed to help anyone. Therapy is just a powerful tool for oedipianization (which means, in essence, training a patient to self-police into conformity and ensuring they return to producing surplus value, manifesting in things like self-repression and a desire for authority figures; in short, putting a cop in your head) managed by therapists who are paid by the hour to make unfalsifiable diagnoses. In short, therapy is a tool to train patients into embracing a police state, and, crucially, you don't need capitalism for that: many nominally leftist states and movements used therapy as a weapon against their citizens/members.

There may be some value for people in genuine crisis, but the idea that therapy is universally helpful seems to be a self-replicating meme among patients (many of whom are unable to stop being patients) who treat therapy as an all-encompassing panacea and ascribe moral value to therapy as if not being in therapy is a sign of some sort of failing. They adopt an attitude that therapy serves a neutral function within capitalism and the process of production, as if something like that could ever exist, and my experience is that the people who make that assertion are little more than cultists.

I'm not promoting alternate medicine or woo or anything like that; if anything, I think therapy is alternate medicine/woo, and the way therapy patients treat it is very similar to how people who believe in woo like essential oils act. There are many ways to work through one's problems in a healthy way, paying some nerd who can have you institutionalized on a whim doesn't seem like one of them.

meh but still a much better state than I was in the 2010s

4 hours ago, MistycSpider said:

I know, I'm just asking, why doomworld? bro wants to make a mental health wad? 

That was... not the best thing you could have said in OP's situation.

It's basically about as good as it could be for being essentially alone. In other words, it's not really hanging by a thread but the amount of motivation I have to improve my living situation doesn't really exist.

4 hours ago, vanilla_d00m said:

Meh, could be better.  If I wasn't single.  I learned to just accept the things that are going on my life and just move on.  Listening to John Romero interviews help, old days of Id software stories.

being single isn't the problem most of the time. there's to be something else in your life that makes you feel like that, you need mental stability by yourself before planning to get in a relationship, a partner is supposed to be the one who complements you, not the one who fills your gap

So you're saying that people who have mental health problems aren't deserving of love?

20 hours ago, Craneo said:

absolute garbage after the pandemic 👍

17 hours ago, Bagellio said:

i think the pandemic definitely had a major impact on my work ethic.

Do you mind if I ask how? Was it the virus itself, the lockdowns, the work from home stuff, the social climate? What is stopping you from recovering now? I didn't experience the lockdowns so I don't have a good grasp on how it effected people

Regarding therapy: You have more options than just paying for a professional therapist, and sometimes the professional therapist won't have the toolset to help you.

When I lived in US I helped start a men's support / therapy group. Me and a bunch of random strangers I had never seen before met every 2 weeks in a park, threw a ball around, and talked about our problems. That was essentially it. Yet as simple as it was, it was profoundly helpful for the people involved. There was one married guy with kids who told us he developed a severe porn addiction, started having sex with strangers, and caught AIDS. There was another guy who walked up to our meeting, fell to the ground, and just started crying in middle of everyone. His wife had divorced him. We had all sorts of bizarre and emotional situations like this. These guys were incapable of telling their family and friends. They couldn't tell a therapist either, because the exchange of money or the formal setting prevented true empathy. Their only recourse ended up being a group of random strangers, where anonymity allowed them to be themselves.

9 hours ago, MistycSpider said:

I'm not being dismissive, at least not as OP spreading missinformation about mental health theraphy, the wad comment was just a sarcastic joke. I'm genuily asking it, it's rare to see that kind of post here, even in this sub

It's actually not. You may not think you're being dismissive, but your comment can be interpreted quite easily as being tactless due to it's tone. If you don't really understand, you're quite free to simply move onto another thread and let a discussion lie.

No but probably the worst one on earth contant stress for no reason that keeps coming back thats only 1% of my mental health the other ones no not talking about it

I cannot quantify my mental health in rational numbers

16 hours ago, june gloom said:

 

I agree with this, but not in the sense that American healthcare is a scam (though it is) and more that therapy itself isn't actually designed to help anyone. Therapy is just a powerful tool for oedipianization (which means, in essence, training a patient to self-police into conformity and ensuring they return to producing surplus value, manifesting in things like self-repression and a desire for authority figures; in short, putting a cop in your head) managed by therapists who are paid by the hour to make unfalsifiable diagnoses. In short, therapy is a tool to train patients into embracing a police state, and, crucially, you don't need capitalism for that: many nominally leftist states and movements used therapy as a weapon against their citizens/members.

 

There may be some value for people in genuine crisis, but the idea that therapy is universally helpful seems to be a self-replicating meme among patients (many of whom are unable to stop being patients) who treat therapy as an all-encompassing panacea and ascribe moral value to therapy as if not being in therapy is a sign of some sort of failing. They adopt an attitude that therapy serves a neutral function within capitalism and the process of production, as if something like that could ever exist, and my experience is that the people who make that assertion are little more than cultists.

 

I'm not promoting alternate medicine or woo or anything like that; if anything, I think therapy is alternate medicine/woo, and the way therapy patients treat it is very similar to how people who believe in woo like essential oils act. There are many ways to work through one's problems in a healthy way, paying some nerd who can have you institutionalized on a whim doesn't seem like one of them.

There are many, many, forms of therapy, and many of them do not obviously fit the crude generalisations that you've sketched here. I'm not interested in having a discussion, but I encourage anyone who thinks they might benefit from some form of therapy not to be dissuaded by posts like these.

14 hours ago, june gloom said:

So you're saying that people who have mental health problems aren't deserving of love?

This is not even what the person you're replying to was trying to say. If you have mental health problems, a potential partner:

- Deserves for you to be treating your mental health as best you can prior to seeking a relationship and not conflating the dopamine rush that comes from a new relationship with the 'cure'

- Deserves to have full disclosure about your mental health issues so that they can make an informed decision about committing to such a thing